Internet pornography is a very touchy subject, but one that is very important to address.
Pornography causes addiction. We start viewing others as object rather than the human beings they are. Many studies show forth the harmful affects of pornography, some which may include viewing people as objects, aggression, normal sexual arousal issues, marriage issues, etc. We need to make a stand against Internet Pornography and the problems it causes to our brains, which extends to many areas in our lives.
Many people associate pornography addiction with men, but the fact is, many women view porn too. Someone who has personal experience with it in the past, I know first hand, the problems with being addicted to Internet pornography.
As you turn from maybe a curiosity of pornography to an addiction, your sense of viewing people as precious human beings you should love into objects of sexual desire. To some, the idea of people becoming the objects of their sexual desire sounds intriguing, but I am talking about the unhealthy objects that all you care about is them as objects. That is not a pretty sight. We need to love each other and sexual desires come as a person becomes closer and so the feelings are mutual.
Around 88% of “top rated” porn scenes contain aggressive acts. That is a large number and in viewing aggressive porn you mind be comes sexual attracted to aggression in a sexual way.
Sam Black who wrote The Porn Circuit says that,
“…Many porn users find they need a greater amount or more intense porn to activate a state of arousal. The brain has decided after multiple porn excursions that this amount of dopamine is excessive. So it has reduced the amount of dopamine in response to porn, and it has reduced the number of dopamine receptors for the neural circuits associated with porn use.
To escape this desensitization, people, and men especially, expand their pornographic tastes to more novel stimuli. What was once considered hardcore — a heterosexual couple engaged in intercourse — is now considered mundane, Dr. Doidge says. Varied forms of sex mixed with force, violence, and humiliation are now fused into today’s pornographic scripts.”
This is so sad! Once we view hardcore “aggressive” porn our brains just want more aggression and want to act out on such. According to some statistics, search engines get “116,000 queries every day related to child pornography.”
Pornography has no limits. You no longer view sex as a genuinely and mutually exciting thing, but just a thing to sexually excite yourself personally; not caring about the other person. Once you start, the non aggressive porn becomes less “interesting” and you start viewing worse and worse porn….sometimes it even gets so bad that you start viewing children porn or bestiality.
Hugh Hefner, the founder of the pornographic magazine, can not even get a full erection without viewing porn. Many sexual issues have been linked to the use pornography to get your sex fix. Just imagine revving up your car engine, only to not even drive it, but turning off. Just like viewing porn, your get your sexual drive all pumped up only to not go the whole way like you were intended to.
It is a common saying that people use porn to spice up their sex lives in marriage. The fact is that porn actually causes sexual arousal to diminish when you view pornography multiple times.
In order to keep your sex drive aroused you have to start watching bizarre and rougher porn and in doing so the normal marriage sex is not arousing. Using porn to “spice up your marriage relations”, is because they are not aroused anymore by sexual relations with a human being. Being so used to getting pleasure from a screen, marriage sex is just not as special as it once was.
Marriage sex is the unity of two people. You learn what is special between each other and should not compare each other to anyone else. Sadly, when you view porn, you start comparing your spouse to someone else. You get excited to watch sex and different types of porn on a screen and that is your sexual arousal, not you spouse.
Pornography is detrimental to every relationship. Not only does it mess with relationships and your sex drive, but it also takes away from your general life.
Once you get addicted, you think about it all the time. When you view it, hours and hours go by. Afterwards you get feelings of gilt, but the feelings of sudden sanctification is stronger than the gilt that you don’t care.
Many times, out of fear of others figuring out, you delete your history or use a private browser. So, the people that could help you with it, they wont be able to know, since you are hiding it. You become paranoid that someone will figure out, so you do all you can to hide it.
Sadly, if you do not see pornography as a sin, you wont have any care to change.
The best way to help with this addiction is to see that it is hurtful to you and your life and for those around you. Set goals and cleanse your mind with good and positive things.
You need to see your sin as sin. You need you to know that you also can be forgiven. Christ died to save sinners- that includes you who are addicted. I am not condemning, but saying you are not alone.
Internet Pornography needs to be stopped or at least we need to be there for those who are addicted to it. Many places are taking a stand against pornography. For example, just recently Starbucks blocked Internet Pornography from their free wifi. Slowly other companies should, and I am sure will, follow Starbucks lead. Taking pornography off free wifi is just one way that companies can limit pornography. In not letting people use their free wifi to watch porn they are showing that pornography is a danger and that it is not family friendly. We need to also show people addicted to porn that they are not alone and that we want to help them conquer their addiction.
Pornography addiction is a sad thing, something that takes dedication and strength to get out of.
It messes with our minds, our relationships, and our lives. Let’s start helping others to get help and to get a free and truly loving mind. We need to fight for love, love that is mutual, love that real, and thinks about others; enjoying what is natural and normal.
Brain Chemicals and Porn Addiction: Science Shows How Porn Harms Us by Luke Gilkerson/ http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/03/brain-chemicals-and-porn-addiction/